The past few posts have covered things like tending to how you feel about yourself (with the intention of making peace with where you are so you can stop negative programming and signaling), knowing what it is you actually DO want and fixating on that as your main point of focus, and figuring out what the payoff is for you changing your body (so you are emotionally invested in your journey). If you feel good about where you are currently (at least no longer beating yourself up for where you are—being at peace), know where you want to go as an end result and why you want to go there, the next thing to consider is how much you believe you can actually achieve the results you want in the time frame you want.
I think most of us learn that there are limitations to how much we can accomplish based on previous experiences of others as well as our own. But what one must consider if they lack any believe of their ability to achieve their goals is that most people (including yourself) have more than likely only taken the physical journey to changing their body and health. And if you got anything from earlier posts about feeling negative and working out to change your body so you will feel better you should have gotten that the programming the body is receiving from the negative focus will battle the positive intent and programming of exercise. The question then becomes “how much physical activity will you have to do to make up for the negative programming caused by your negative focus and negative emotions?”
Most people think that it is the conditions they are experiencing that is responsible for how they feel and if they believe an overweight, aching or ill body is what makes them insecure, angry, discouraged, disappointed, frustrated or pessimistic then they will have to change outside circumstances to change how they feel. But we now know that the way you feel about your body is based on your interpretation of your body (not the body causing you to feel the way you do). So consider that those who have gone before you to change their body or health (or the last time you tried this yourself) that either had to do way more activities than you would like to get to the same goal or who failed at getting to the goal had something else working against them—their own focus and emotional state.
If you have any lack of belief about you getting to your goal by a date you set forth than you may want to ask yourself why you believe what you do—why do you lack belief? You can put it in sentence form like this: I lack belief (you can change the wording here to reflect your level of belief) about achieving my goal (you can be specific here) because….. (your reason). You might say something like “….because I’ve never been able to drop this much weight in this time frame before.” If your answer reflects something like this then you may want to consider the mental state you were in when you last attempted this transformation. If you said something like “….because it will take so much physical effort to change my body the way I want that it is discouraging (not to mention I don’t even like those activities)” you can apply the same logic. How much activity does one have to do to trump the negative programming from the wrong focus and negative emotional stress?
If the reason you lack belief is because you learned something about yourself, exercise, diet or what it takes to get where you want to go then you may want to ask yourself where you learned that information and whether or not that source had the understanding of how much our thoughts, stress, emotions and focus affect our body’s ability to change. If you think about where you have learned most of your information you will see that those “rules” were set with limited knowledge. In fact, 90% of what scientists currently know about the brain (and how it affects our programming and neuro-chemistry) has been discovered in the past 8 to 10 years. Chances are most non-scientists haven’t been updated on this current research and have an old model of what it takes to change one’s body and health. The more we learn about the brain (and the mind) and how it affects things like cellular function, chemical changes in the body, how our filters work, etc. we can start to fit that into our old model of change when it comes to our body and health. We can longer separate the human from the being. Your mind/brain and body are connected more than we ever thought and if you don’t believe it, you won’t achieve it! Your body will go where the mind leads!
In my next post I will discuss tending to the actions you think you need to do to get where you want to go. If you believe you need to do things you don’t like you will ultimately be setting yourself up for failure.